Is it Okay to be Alone?
People say it’s sad to be alone. You’ll get crazy, become an introvert, and become lonely. Well for me we need to be alone every once in a while. Being alone is not a crime, it is not a sin. Sometimes, being alone can make you think about life, if you are doing it right or if you are on the right track. Sometimes it is great to be away from reality, just you, your favorite book or your notebook/laptop where you can write/type your thoughts.
People sometimes took advantage of your goodness and it is sooo easy for them to hurt you, not physically but emotionally and mentally. And I think that’ll make you crazy. There are also people whom you think everything depends on him/her and you feel like you can’t live without him/ her. Then you’ll realized one day that you already became a robot, you can’t show your true feelings when your angry, disappointed or frustrated. You can’t even tell your thoughts about that person because you’re afraid that it might hurt him/her and that he/she will leave you. It is also disappointing when you expect that person to do the things that you’re also doing for him/her.
For me, being alone is a therapy. You just need to disconnect from all your social media accounts, and from the people around you. From there, try to reconnect with yourself. How long has it been since you make yourself loved by yourself? Have you always given your all and forgot to leave something for yourself? Do you still know your worth? Try to ask those questions, and during the process you will know the answers.
One thing I’ve learned in this process is to protect you heart. It is okay to do good for someone but it is not okay to give your all for someone. If that person really loves you, whatever you say to him/her will not be the reason for him/her to leave you. Because if he/she truly loves you, he/she will admit his/her mistakes and understands you. Don’t forget also to admit your mistakes because I know that what transpires the conflict are your shortcomings for each other.
So yes, it is okay to be alone. Make use of your personal privacy. It is time to love yourself!
